Closing the Distance: How to Start Your Move Two Months Ahead

Freaking out is an understatement. I am officially two months out from picking up my entire life, moving it across the country and I am a complete melting pot of emotion. One minute I’m thrilled to move and looking up decorations on Pinterest and ten minutes later I’m driving to work teary-eyed.

I’ve known for quite a while now that I am an anxious person and to combat that, I have to take things slowly, make lists and get shit done one step at a time. I’ve really taken this move as an opportunity to re-create life, get rid of all the clutter, all the old clothes, jobs, memories and things that no longer serve a purpose to my life.

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Threats of War and How to React

I heard that the United States had bombed Syria while sitting at my dining room table eating my breakfast. In the next room, the news was playing as background noise while my mom washed the dishes and our Keurig pissed out my morning cup.

I splashed some creamer in and walked into the dining room to plop into a chair. After taking a few seconds to wake up, I realized what was happening on the news.

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An Open Letter to the Military Girlfriend I Was Two Years Ago

Dear you,

I know exactly how you feel. You’re standing on your front lawn in your bare feet, the March sun beaming on your head. He’s walking away and all your left with is the Navy shirt that he got when he enlisted and your hand on your lips because he just kissed you for the first time…and last time for the next nine weeks of bootcamp. This moment that you are experiencing right now will be your first memory of being a military girlfriend. And that feeling you are having is going to become a normality in your life. The goodbyes are going to become a regular occurrence.

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When Your SO Is Stationed Somewhere You Don’t Want

I was about to start teaching the first kickboxing class of the night when I got a text from Taylor saying, “Guess what?!”. I replied back with the usual, “What??!!” and waited for a response.

I walked up to the small black ledge in the corner of our studio where today’s workout is posted. I placed my phone on the ledge covered with old coffee stains and went to scan over the day’s work out when my phone buzzed.

I grabbed it and looked really quick, curious as to what Taylor was excited about…and then my heart dropped into my stomach.

Not the good kind of dropped either. Like the I’m going to puke kind. The “I really wish I had a time machine so I can go back and choose not to read that” kind.

I placed, or rather tossed my phone, back down on the old coffee stains and turned on to the mat and tried to be as happy and pleasant as I could for the members trying to take class. I didn’t think about what I read.

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Top Favorite Long Distance Quotes

I have always been fond of words. I like the way they sound….well, some of them at least. I like how there are words to describe really specific feelings, thoughts and emotions. So, naturally, I also happen to like quotes too. My bedroom walls are filled with them. Some I’ve picked up from books, others I stumbled across on the internet and others are things that friends and family have said to me that I felt like I needed to remember.

And wouldn’t you know it! I, of course, have ones about long distance and military relationships. I wanted to share them because they have really helped me out at times and gave some of the best advice and motivation.

1. “Love can not be measured by how long you wait. It’s about how well you understand why you are waiting.”

Some days I feel like this is all just too much. Like life is moving so fast and he isn’t here to see or be apart of any of it. But then I find myself thinking about the future or about what our kids might be like or how I want to decorate or house, etc. and all of a sudden none of the other stuff matters. Focus on what and why you are waiting.

2.”Distance means so little when someone means so much.”

We all get the response, “I have no idea how you do it,” from other people at least once a week. Want to know why I do this? Because I have never met anyone that is so worth it. Distance means absolutely nothing when the end goal is so worth it.

3.”Distance does not ruin a relationship. Doubts do.”

I’m a worrier. I have anxiety. Panic attacks, the whole nine yards. I’ll readily admit that. I find that most of the time when a fight or argument is my fault it is because I was the one that worried myself into it. I created a situation in my head that I had no evidence to back up in the first place.

Learn to stop these thoughts. Recognize when these thoughts are coming up and ask yourself if you really have any solid evidence to back it up. If not, MAKE AN EFFORT to think about something else. Don’t dwell. Easier said than done, I know. But in a long distance relationship this has to be strong.

4.”How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”

I will rarely ever use the F word in my writing but…Goodbyes f**king suck to put that mildly. I HATE every second of watching Taylor walk away from me. But I’m also all about being positive. Most people at my age have never even experienced love before…I’ve found mine. How beautiful is that?

5.โ€œDistance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. Itโ€™s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. Itโ€™s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they donโ€™t see it nearly enoughโ€ฆโ€

This quote explains itself beautifully. You were strong enough to recognize the good in someone and strong enough to be in this type of relationship. Never forget that.

6.”Loving a military man is not hard. The distance is hard, the worry is hard, the sacrifices are hard. But loving him? That’s the easiest thing I have ever done.”

…Always my reply to people who question my relationship in any way, shape or form. Military life is hard. But loving Taylor is effortless.

Have any good quotes you like? Share ’em with me!!

 

Airline Prices Got Your Wallet Feeling Skinny?

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Air fare literally gives me anxiety. Every time I go to book a trip, I have to do some yoga breathing and cross my fingers and toes hoping that airline prices are in my budget range. For a long time I considered getting a credit card that rewarded with airline miles (still in consideration) but I have it good at the bank where I currently am so I am kind of eh about switching over.

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Anxiety Over Deployment? 5,4,3,2,1 and Done.

When I went to visit Taylor back in January we went to Patriot’s Point where they have two ships you can tour and a submarine. Being that Taylor signed up for submarine duty we obviously went to check out the old sub. As we were walking through I kept hitting my head and ramming into things because it was so small. Taylor on the other hand seemed right at home and walked around touching everything (he touched this button and an alarm went off. The expression on his face almost made me pee my pants). And I remember he said something about if the sub gets hit or there’s a malfunction while they are way down under there is no coming out alive. I rolled my eyes and sarcastically replied, “Oh great. That makes me feel SO much better. That’s exactly what I want to think about while you’re deployed.”

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