The first time me and Taylor went to a wedding was at the beginning of fall of last year. It was for one of his friends that he had met during school. The wedding was hosted at the bride’s house which was a gorgeous farm. The leaves were starting to change colors and they got married under some willow trees as the sun was setting. Extremely romantic. But from what I learned, they were a few years younger than my 22-year-old self and had only been officially dating for about six months. This kind of shocked me.
No doubt, it was an absolutely beautiful wedding but it made me think. They were so young and weren’t even dating that long! Then as I started getting more into the military lifestyle, I noticed that this isn’t uncommon at all. I thought about it for a long time and I came to the conclusion that marrying young wasn’t really that bad. I mean, what’s so terrible about finding the one you want to spend the rest of your life with at a young age? There’s more time together. More firsts together. Actually, doing anything young isn’t so terrible. Having a child is a blessing and a miracle at any age. Moving out of your home is a growing experience. It all depends on how you view things and how you react. I believe that the success of a marriage has absolutely nothing to do with how young or old one decides to marry.
But there is one simple reason why I will not get married right now; I have absolutely nothing to offer my significant other than a lot of student debt and maybe a thousand dollars of savings money.
You might tell me that I have my love, support and companionship to offer which I would agree with you. But I can offer those to my significant other as his girlfriend. I don’t need a marriage license to love the hell out of Taylor. I also believe that it takes more than just love for a marriage to work.
You might say, well, what about the benefits and discounts that you get with being married in the military? I say those don’t really matter if I’m not making a solid income anyway. If I’m not making decent money with a stable job then I’m going to be poor with or without those nice benefits. So, in my mind, it’s better to wait, go through school, gain experience, get a good job and then marry and enjoy those benefits and that extra cash in my pocket.
Besides that, I still have some growing up to do and some more soul searching before I can truly give my whole self to another. I am pretty confident on who I am as a person but there are still a few things I’d like to explore and need to figure out. I think it’s just as important to give Taylor that time as well.
But don’t get me wrong, I will NEVER judge another couple for marrying young. Marriage is a beautiful thing and for some people getting married young is one hundred percent the right thing to do. I applaud those people. They know what they want and have the courage to go after it. One day I hope to be a Navy wife but for now I am good with being a Navy girlfriend.
I would love to hear your thoughts on marrying young! I know this can be a touchy subject for a lot of people so please be kind.